Kiss Me Bit Me Pet Me
The Retreat
This Kiss Me Bite Me Pet Me retreat is based on the principle that we have three core desires in a relationship, to be
Kissed - to be seen, chosen and cherished
Bitten - to have adventure, mystery and transcendence
Pet - to experience healing, kindness and security
We explore these fundamental desires in an engaging, relaxing manner, drawing and expanding on your existing strengths.
We use positive playful exercises to bring vitality to your union.
Many of the taught skills can be applied to parenting, caregiving, and work relationships.
Kiss Me Bite Me Pet Me is based on attachment science and is trauma informed to provide a safe container. Exercises and teaching are designed to accommodate differing personalities and learning styles. You will be working one-on-one with your partner throughout the retreat, while accessing a supportive community.
In this retreat you will learn how to cultivate positive and playful communication, how to heal past hurts and soothe one another and finally, how to improve sensuality and sex.
Breitenbush Hot Springs Retreat
July 24-27, 2025
Celebrate and invigorate your partnership!
Bask in the healing magic of precious thermal hot springs. Breitenbush offers an all inclusive experience where you can reconnect with nature and beauty. Indulge in three delicious meals a day, hot springs, sauna, and a historic lodge nestled in a tranquil setting complete with nature trails, a labyrinth, and porch swing overlooking a gorgeous river.
The ultimate romantic location to grow your relationship!
Breitenbush Hot Springs
Detroit, OR
Kiss Me Skills,
learn how to…
Deeply listen to one another
Celebrate your unique essences
Keep the pilot light lit
Draw your partner toward you
Delight in one another
Bite Me Skills,
learn how to…
Share boundaries that bring you closer
Initiate sex with confidence
Talk about sex with playfulness
Increase overall eroticism and sensuality
Widen your experience of adventure
Pet Me Skills,
learn how to…
Ground yourself quickly
Heal one another’s past trauma
Repair after a rupture
Create win/wins when conflicts occur
Increase trust and resiliency
Retreat Testimonials
“We have been to many couples retreats, this was by far the most effective and comprehensive. We received real tools and loved the fun exercises that brought us closer. “
- J.
“I loved the practical skills. You gave us so many tools to take home, the worksheets will be used again and again.”
- S.
“I didn’t realize how much hurt my partner, now we have the tools to repair and really grow close again.”
- D.
We loved the music, Deborah’s poetry, Adam’s leadership, the laughter of the group. We got way more out of this retreat than we expected!”
- K.
Deborah and Adam, you really know how to create a safe and healing space. Thank you so much for sharing about your relationship too, it really helped us connect to you and learn.
- T. and W.
I was really nervous about attending a group retreat. Hearing from other couples was amazing! We learned so much from them.
- P. and C.
We never knew how to initiate sex and so we stopped having it. Now we know how!
The sensual homework helped us drop into our bodies in a way we never have.
- L. and N.
We loved the playfulness of the exercises, thank you for giving us new tools beyond just talking.
- K. and T.
About Deborah
Deborah Grace is a therapist, author and seeker who believes healing begins when we embrace ourselves with compassion and patience. Deborah has a counseling practice which focuses on relationship, sexuality and intimacy. Incorporating trauma work, mindfulness and practical tools, Deborah helps clients discover and strengthen connection to self, other and spirit. Deborah loves to hike, write, play with her grandchildren and visit hot springs.
Adam Cooper brings elements of fun, adventure and enthusiasm. With a background in the political, private and snow sports sectors, Adam has led complex teams and delights in helping others to explore their soul’s calling and increase the light they bring to the world. He is a Gottman Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Adam loves creating strong communities, time in the trees, sliding on steep snow, swimming with sea life, and playing with his family.
About Adam
Retreat Schedule
The retreat schedule is designed to give you plenty of free time to connect and integrate the material!
Thursday Evening
Kiss Me Bite Me Pet Me Welcome and Orientation 7:30 pm-9pm
Learn about Kisses, Bites and Pets
Discover your strengths as a couple
Learn tools to connect and set intentions
Friday
Kiss Me Morning 10am-noon
Learn how to have a team or “We mindset”
Discover how to be curious and generous
Learn what romance truly is and how to invigorate it in your relationship
Learn how to communicate to honor yourself and your partner
Bite Me Early Afternoon 3pm-4:15pm
Learn how to truly ask for what you want
Learn how to initiate connection and sex
Learn about your values and how honoring them is the backbone of your partnership
Discover your barriers to eroticism and how to be sensual in a way that’s genuine for you
Pet Me Late Afternoon 4:30pm-6pm
Learn how to attune to yourself and your partner
Learn how to hold space to heal trauma
Learn how past hurts can bring you closer
Discover how to honor your and your partner’s nervous systems
Saturday
Kiss Me Morning 10am-noon
Learn how to truly give in a ways that meet your partner
Discover how to deeply receive
Learn about polarity to create romantic and sexual attraction
Learn about attachment styles and how to work with yours
Bite Me Early Afternoon 3pm-4:15pm
Learn how to identify and share your turn ons
Discover how to increase desire and work with differing desire levels
Learn what makes great sex
Expand your sexual palette for more connection and pleasure
Pet Me Late Afternoon 4:30pm-6pm
Learn about harmony and disharmony cycles and how to increase harmony
Discover how to have generative repair after a fight or disconnection
Learn how to compromise
Learn how your ancestors can support you
Learn how to deeply soothe your partner
Sunday
Kiss Me, Bite Me, Pet Me Morning 10am - noon
Learn how to integrate Kisses, Bites and Pets
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